Being a Better Parent: Practical Steps for Supporting Growth 

One of the most fulfilling experiences is in being a parent, it can give you so many opportunities to grow and learn. Being a better parent has more than just one approach to it though, there are many things we can do to become better parents.

aigeneratedfamilyDad, mom and son sitting at table that has salads on it. They are all smiling happily.

Whether you're a skilled parent or just starting out on this journey for the first time, below are some steps you can take towards being a better parent. 

Reinforce Your Bond Through Meaningful Interactions 

In the busy modern world that we live in, it’s really important to set aside the time to spend with your children.

Focus on the things that you can do that will improve your parent-child bond with one another.

This could include family game nights, outside adventures, or even just having a meal together without any disruptions. 

Practice the Skill of Listening

This one’s powerful, you can connect with your child by truly listening to them.

Practice actively listening to them and giving them your full attention, make eye contact and get in touch with their emotions.

Creating an environment so that you can openly communicate with your child will make your kids feel valued and heard.

Being a Better Parent by Being a Good Role Model

parentspickinglitterwithkidsParents and kids walking on the manmade path with trees all around and they are gathering the garbage because littering is not okay.

Kids discover by example, so be mindful of your habits.

Whether it's showing kindness, strength, or empathy, strive to represent the top qualities you wish to give your kids. 

You are your child’s most favourite role model, you can have a long lasting influence on their growth.

There’s a saying that, “actions speak louder than words,” so be careful how you present yourself.

Foster Independence and Responsibility 

Let your children improve their independence and sense of duty from a young age.

Allow them to take on appropriate chores and tasks for their age, and don’t forget to praise their efforts and success. 

You will be helping them feel more confident in themselves as well as encouraging them to develop valuable life skills. 

Be Consistent with Clear Boundaries

It’s important that you create clear and consistent boundaries in order to establish a risk-free and caring setting for your kids.

Be firm yet fair in applying rules, and offer explanations for why particular boundaries have been set.

Children feel safe and better understand what is expected of them when you are consistent.

Practice Positive Discipline 

A crucial role of parenting is discipline, so you need to approach it in a constructive and positive manner.

Instead of using negative discipline, you can teach your child or even more importantly guide them toward making better choices. 

Don’t Forget About YOU! 

Our child’s well-being is so important to us so that's what we focus on most, however, you should not neglect your own needs.

Make time for activities that will re-energize you, you might want to consider exercise, hobbies, or just basking in a moment of silence. 

To be the best parent you can be, it is important that you take good care of yourself.

Burnout can come quickly and easily, if you let it.

Look For Support and Community 

motherhoodsupportgroupMotherhood Support Group with babies in attendance.

Parenting can sometimes feel overwhelming, yet you don't have to do it all on your own.

Look for support from friends or family, you can even go to a parenting group if you like talking with larger groups. 

Any one of them can offer you advice, compassion, and point of view.

Investing your time in a helpful community can offer peace of mind and validation during both the victories and obstacles of being a parent. 

Flexibility and Willingness to Adjust

Flexibility is key to being a better parent to your children. Understand that all kids are unique in their own way and you will need to adjust your parenting techniques to suit their personalities. 

Let’s consider the following 2 kids who have opposite behaviours to see how this works in practice.

jakerunningJake is being his usual active by running outdoors.

Jake: The Energetic Explorer

Jake has lots of energy. He loves participating in physical activities such as running, climbing trees and exploring.

He often asks questions and likes to be doing things all the time. His high energy level often makes it difficult for him to sit still long enough to read or do his homework. 

Parenting Approach for Jake: More of a Authoritative Parenting 

  • Encourage Physical Activity
  • Set Clear Boundaries
  • Use Active Learning Techniques
emmacraftingEmma likes to keep busy beading.

Emma: Quiet and Aways Deep In Thought

Emma, is calm and more serious. She prefers quiet activities, crafts, reading, drawing and building with legos.

She can be sensitive to changes and requires extra support during these times.

Parenting Approach for Emma: Positive Parenting

  • Foster Creativity
  • Be Consistent with Routines
  • Introduce New Experiences but at Her Pace

Above All Practice Gratitude

Among all the chaos and the busy life of parenting, take time to be grateful for any of the precious moments you are able to share with your children. 

Treasure the small joys, and express your gratitude for the chance of getting to see them grow and develop.

Being grateful for them, strengthens your bond of love for one another.