Tiger Parenting - What is it? and Is it your choice of parenting style?

In the past, tiger parenting has received both praise and criticism for its unique approach.

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It is a type of parenting that offers a strict method of raising high achieving children.

Some have even gone as far as to say that it could be a form of abuse.

It is a demanding and a highly disciplined method of raising children, however, the idea behind this type of parenting is the value and appreciation parents have for their children’s education.

Therefore, some of a tiger parents high standards may include; not being able to watch any TV, no video games, no playing with friends, but they must studying all day or practice a skill such as piano.

The children are basically forced to work hard and dedicate themselves to achieving goals. 

What Does Tiger Parenting Require in Practice? 

High Expectations: Tiger parents set high standards for their children, accepting only the best possible results in behaviour, academics and extracurricular activities.

The kids are expected to reach their fullest potential, while parents provide them with the support and resources to achieve the goals set for them. 

Structured Environment: For tiger parents, maintaining a structured environment is crucial.

Everything from routines to study schedules is carefully organized and supervised with the goal of nurturing discipline, time management abilities and a solid work ethic in children.

Importance of Education: The focus here is on education, they prioritize success above all else. They will actively support their children's learning journey by closely following their progress.

In addition they provide tutoring and help their kids with homework. They will also provide any other activities that may help their child thrive in school.

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Parental Involvement: Tiger Parents are highly engaged in their children's lives frequently taking on a role in their education and growth.

They offer advice, assistance and guidance actively influencing their children's decisions and goals.

Flexibility and Dedication: Tiger parenting emphasizes the importance of flexibility and dedication when dealing with difficulties.

Failure is not an option, but instead it is seen as a chance for personal development and education. Children are pushed to overcome setbacks and aim for improvement.

Signs That You Are a Tiger Parent

  • You don’t let your kids have sleepovers with friends or even hang out with them for that matter.
  • You expect your child to get perfect grades, as early as the age of 6. Often harsh punishments are applied if they fail to do so.
  • Your kids are afraid to discuss things with you for fear that you will scold them if you don’t agree with them.
  • You don’t trust them with most things.
  • Your children follow the mantra, “more work and less play;” they never invite friends over as they are afraid of your autoritarian nature.

Pros of Tiger Parenting for the Child

By constantly following their parents rules and orders, the child will come to understand how important it is to have a disciplined life.

  • Even though there is a constant fear of punishment, children often discover their true potential and learn to do their best to be successful.
  • Tiger parents want their children to grow up as well-adjusted adults. It is the parents only hope that their child be happy and successful, resulting in focused and goal-oriented children.
  • While there are major hazards to tiger parenting it can also help children to become more responsible, productive and motivated. 
  • Parents raise their children to challenge themselves and develop a strong work ethic, essentially it teaches children to be an adult at a young age in order for them to become well-adjusted adults in the future.

Cons of Tiger Parenting for the Child

  • The children feel overburdened and pressured. Their growth and creativity are hindered as they are told to follow the rules.
  • The children become anxious and depressed because of constant fear. They are always afraid of making mistakes for which they can be punished.
  • They experience feelings of alienation from their parents, rather than someone whose parents are more supportive
  • They will experience more self-esteem issues due to the over the top demands they are constantly bombarded with. They may also fear failure, not wanting to humiliate or disappoint their parents. 
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Critics suggest that its strict and controlling approach could have some harmful repercussions on a child’s well-being causing them significant stress, limited independence and reduced self-confidence.

However, not all children will respond to this parenting approach. Some kids simply have their own unique set of passions, strengths and weaknesses and this method of parenting them may backfire. 

You know what they say, " A method of parenting that works for one child may not work so well for another." it's up to you the parent to be flexible and adjust your parenting strategies accordingly.

In essence, tiger parenting is not about all of its rules but rather about embracing values, like commitment, aspiration and affection.

Though, striving for success is commendable, it should be coupled with empathy, insight and acknowledgment of each child’s traits.

As parents we are responsible for our future generation. No matter which parenting style we choose, what counts the most is the love, encouragement and strong faith we have, in our kids abilities.

Parenting is an adventure of exploration, development and education—for both parents and kids. Lets embark on this journey, with bravery, compassion and a whole bunch of love in our hearts.