Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys you can take. But let’s be real – “is parenting hard?”
Absolutely! Every parent at some point finds themselves asking this question, and it's completely normal to feel overwhelmed.
So why is parenting hard?
The Emotional Rollercoaster
One of the toughest parts of parenting is the emotional ride.
From the moment your child is born, your heart is filled with love, but it can also feel like it’s constantly being tugged in different directions.
You celebrate your child’s first steps or their little wins, but you also worry about their safety, well-being, and future.
It's not unusual for parents to experience anxiety, frustration, or even guilt over whether they are doing enough.
The emotional toll doesn’t end when your child grows older, either. New challenges will come up as they go through the different stages of development.
The toddler tantrums, the preteen mood swings, and the teen rebellion can all take a toll on your emotional reserves. And guess what? This is one of the key reasons why “parenting is hard.”
There’s no way around it—parenting involves a lot of responsibility.
You’re the one in charge of making decisions about what your child eats, where they go to school, what they do in their free time, and so much more.
Don’t forget their emotional well-being, your responsible for that as well.
It can feel exhausting at times, all of the decisions they depend on you to make. You’re always “on” as a parent, and that can leave you feeling drained.
Even something as simple as planning meals or coordinating schedules can feel like a full-time job.
For foster parents, these responsibilities can sometimes double or shift depending on the unique needs of the child in their care.
When you layer on work responsibilities or other family commitments, it's easy to see why parenting is hard.
Let’s not forget the physical aspect of parenting. Especially when kids are young, you might find yourself on your feet constantly, from chasing toddlers to waking up at night with a crying baby.
And don’t think for a minute that it gets easier as they get older, because it doesn’t. There’s playdates, after school activities, sports events etc.
You are forever on the go, always thinking you just want your child to be happy. (At least I did) Parenting is not for the faint of heart—it’s physically tiring!
One of the biggest reasons you may feel that parenting is hard is “exhaustion.” If you have babies or toddlers you are likely to lack sleep.
But even as kids grow, the energy it takes to stay engaged, help with homework, or shuttle them around to various activities can leave you feeling wiped out by the end of the day.
This is why prioritizing self-care is essential to survive the physical demands of parenting.
Every parent has faced a moment where they feel like they just don’t know how to handle their child’s behavior.
Maybe it’s a toddler throwing a tantrum in the grocery store, or perhaps it’s a teenager refusing to follow the house rules.
There is no one-size-fits-all solution to behaviour management, making it a difficult part of parenting.
Children are individuals, and what works for one may not work for another. Figuring out the best way to communicate, discipline, and set boundaries can feel like a never-ending learning curve.
And when a method doesn’t work, it’s easy to feel frustrated or even like you’re failing. But it doesn’t make you a bad parent if you are struggling with behaviour challenges.
It just confirms the idea that parenting is hard, and seeking help from others is okay.
Another aspect that makes parenting hard is the constant balancing act.
Whether you're working full-time, managing a household, or trying to make time for your own personal interests, it can feel impossible to balance everything.
Many parents feel torn between their different roles, whether it’s as a partner, employee, or friend, and they may feel guilty that they’re not able to give 100% to every aspect of their life.
Trying to find a balance is especially hard for single parents or foster parents who do not have the same level of support available to them.
All of the responsibilities and tasks fall on your shoulders, making it that much harder to achieve a sense of balance, when you’re the primary caregiver.
We live in an age where everyone’s parenting journey is on display, especially with social media.
It’s easy to feel like you’re falling short when you compare yourself to other parents who seem to have it all together. Are their kids behaving better? Are their kids getting better grades in school? Are their kids participating in more extracurricular activities?
This pressure to “do it all” can be overwhelming and often leaves parents feeling like they’re not measuring up.
The truth is, parenting is hard because no two families are the same. Every parent and child is unique.
You are not perfect and you or your child don't even have to try to be. Learning to tune out the external noise and focus on what works for your family.
Even though parenting is hard, it’s also incredibly rewarding. Every challenge brings equal growth—for both you and your child.
The small moments, like hearing your child say “I love you,” watching them hit a milestone, or seeing them develop into kind and caring individuals, make the hard days more than worth it.
Being a parent teaches us patience and unconditional love. Sometimes it may feel overwhelming, it is also one of the most enjoyable roles you will ever take on.
While you can’t eliminate all the challenges, there are ways to lighten the load.
Here are some practical tips: